Sunday, July 12, 2009

16 and Pregnant

First off, I'm pro-choice. Am I pro-abortion? No - that's ridiculous - no one wants to encourage abortions. But I'm pro-abortion rights. The right to choose should be available for those who are not ready or willing to give birth as well as those who, for medical reasons, deem it in their best interest. I'm not hear to debate that, however - just giving my view.

I also dislike anything that glorifies teen pregnancy or in any way makes it seem like a desirable choice. The Jamie Lynn Spears scenario comes to mind. Of course, your average teen has neither the resources nor the support to accommodate a pregnancy during her late childhood, but you seldom see that side of it in the media, with young celebrities pictured with their babies held up like trendy accessories.

So I was reading the channel channel last week - you know the guide channel? - and I saw the show "16 and Pregnant" playing on MTV. I admit I haven't watched MTV in some time, because I'm a stodgy old fuddyduddy now, but from what I recall, the quality and shall we say...moral content?...of the shows were somewhat lacking. There's a time and a place for morally dubious programming, don't get me wrong, but a show about teen pregnancy, obviously aimed at teens, probably isn't it.

Of course I was curious enough to flip over to MTV to see whether it was some crude glorification of teen pregnancy, like profiling underaged starlets' impending motherhood.

I have to say, I was not only surprised by what I found, but I was delighted.

Teens are difficult creatures - they don't want to be told what to do and they assume they know everything. Oh, and they are immortal, of course. Can't forget that. But showing them the ups and downs of teen pregnancy, which is what this program does, might actually have an effect.

And anything that has an actual effect to help reduce the number of teen pregnancies is something we need to study further. Preaching abstinence only at them, clearly doesn't work at all. I wish it did, but it simply doesn't. Perhaps showing them what actually happens to a pregnant girl might?

Each episode profiles a pregnant teenager for about six months and shows the changes the girl goes through, both physically and emotionally, but also in regard to their social life, education, family, and finances through the end of the pregnancy and for the first few months of being a new mom. And those changes are dramatic - friends are put aside for staying at home with baby, college plans are postponed, relationships are changed and in some cases destroyed.

While it also shows an optimistic view overall, the program does not spare the hardships that come in the form of swollen ankles, unattended proms, social snubbing, and staying up all night every night with a fussy newborn when her friends are out painting the town red, dating, and graduating high school. And in many cases, it shows the once-loving boyfriend continuing to enjoy his teenage years as if nothing had happened, leaving all or most of the responsibility to the mother of his child.

In short, the series is about childhoods abruptly left behind for much more difficult responsibilities. Responsibilities that can't be ignored, no matter how badly you want to go out or take a nap.

The show does not have a narrator other than the teen herself and the adults in the program are supporting characters only. The shows are in no way preachy or overbearing, but rather compelling and honest. Compelling enough for this mom of three to DRV the rest of the series - I've watched 5 so far, each profiling a girl from a different background.

If kids will listen to anything, I suspect it will be something like this, especially coming from MTV - a station most teens watch at least occasionally and which is viewed as way cooler than one's own parents.

And this is something that both those who are strongly in favor of pro-abortion rights and those who are against of abortion rights should be able to support. Reducing the need for abortions to begin with.

The show also has its own website that has links to information about how to avoid pregnancy and facts about sex and contraception as well as updates on the profiled teens and various extras, like footage that didn't make the show. You can also view full episodes. All in all, a good resource for girls who are at risk for pregnancy as well as for boys.

Thanks, MTV for such a timely and much-needed series.

1 comment:

  1. Oh i hear you and well you know i've delt with the teen mom myself with my daughter who had all these wrong thoughts about it. Sadly most of her friends are teen moms and like in this case don't take care of there babies either whoever is willing is who does it.
    I've watched 16 & Pg and i love how they don't make it look so easy like the girls here do they show it like it is and hopefully these girls will take it to heart cause like you said they sure don't liston to us parents.
    I just get so mad these girls here showing them off like they are toys then dump them off when they are done showing the new toy trust me i've aged alot this past yr i love the baby to death but my daughter has took a toll on me let me tell you. Lets hope these girls learn to wait til they can take on a child before they make one.

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